What do you need to do to get out of that depressing moment? I am not a psychologist or an expert. I am going to share with what I do when I am feeling sad when I am alone and no one to consult. It works for me, and I hope you’ll practice what I’m about to share with you.
WHY DO WE GET DEPRESSED?
It could be because someone belittled you, your dress does not fit you anymore, or you notice there is a wrinkle on your face.
Before attempting to have a solution of what to do to get out of the depression, the first question is, “How did I get to the emotions state that I’m in right now?”
Often times, I am the cause and allow my own depressing state of mind.
When I catch myself in the depression moment, here is what I do. I ask myself a series of questions like the following:
Why am I feeling depressing?
What causes me to be like this?
Who makes me feel this way?
For example, let’s say Ann is the name of your boss. She criticizes you for the job you’d done because you didn’t work fast enough.
Here are some questions I’d ask myself.
Have I done my absolute best job?
Did I do everything I was instructed to do within my control?
If I needed clarification, did I get the valid answers?
Did I execute my task correctly according to the instruction and delivered it in a timely manner?
Is there a challenge I didn’t tell her that prevented me from getting the job done faster?
Do I need to explain to myself why my performance was slower? If yes, ask for an appropriate time to chat with Ann.
I answer each question truthfully and honestly for myself. There is no one to judge me. I don’t let myself be the advocate judge.
Let’s also not forget that some times it’s because we are tired, not getting enough rest and sleep. If that is the case, I just drop everything and sleep. Forget about house cleaning and socialize.
I ask myself, “If I were to die right now, is it important to think over and over what Ann said?
What would I get by beating myself up?”
No is probably the most likely answer.
Next, I let it go or free my mind. I do that by distracting myself to do something else, so I can stop myself from thinking about what Ann said.
The key here is I train myself to free my mind. Sometimes, things linger in there longer than I want to. And that is OK. But don’t let it becomes a bad habit. The mind functions in strange ways.
The bookmark your favorite, feel great music so you have them when you want to listen to them.
Also, I like some Chinese traditional songs, instrumental music and wonderful scenery. Practically, I listen to all kinds of music even if I don’t understand the lyrics.
Don’t listen to sad songs that make you feel more depressing. You don’t need to hear, “Hey, you suck!” or any sad love songs. Having said that, if by listening to sad music makes you feel better and happier, then do that.
Some people by listening to sad songs make them happy. Sad songs push out the negative feelings they have in the present. It makes me think of math. A negative times a negative is a positive.
If they give you a reason to smile now, then that is all it matters.
When in doubt, please ask for help from a trusted friend and/or professionals.